It is natural to have strong feelings about your ex-spouse in the aftermath of a divorce. Many parents are wondering if it would be possible to get sole custody of any children involved. 
 
The reality is that sole custody is very hard to get. In fact, according to FindLaw, the most common situation where sole custody is currently given is if one parent is legally unfit to care for a child. 
 
Does the mother usually get sole custody? 
 
It used to be common for the mother to end up with sole custody of the children after a divorce, particularly if the children were very young. However, this is less common in the modern courtroom because extensive evidence shows that children do best in a joint parenting situation if at all possible. 
 
This is why co-parenting is so popular in the modern era. It is generally best for children to have both parents involved in their upbringing, even if the parents are no longer together in a married relationship or even cohabiting. 
 
What is the difference between legal and physical custody? 
 
Having legal custody over a child is when one or both parents have the rights to make decisions regarding the welfare of the child. This may include religious upbringing, education decisions, and medical decisions. 
 
Physical custody refers to where the child actually resides. In a sole custody situation, the child will primarily reside with one parent and will likely have visitation with the second parent. In a joint custody situation, the child will spend time at both households in as equitable of a manner as possible.