Massachusetts parents need to be aware that the end of their marriage can be difficult for their children to handle. It is the responsibility of the parents to take the necessary steps to protect their children and ensure that they have a post-divorce environment in which they are able to thrive.
One way for them to protect their children after a divorce is to make sure that the children do not experience the anger one parent may have for another parent. Children should not be subject to statements about which parent wanted the divorce, who was unfaithful or who misbehaved. The parents should also do what is necessary for their children to realize that their parents’ divorce was not their fault. The children should be reassured that there was nothing, on their part, that they could have done that would have prevented the divorce and nothing they can do to rectify it.
Honesty should be a cornerstone of the relationship between parents and children after a divorce. The children deserve to be treated with integrity and told the truth about even seemingly insignificant things. However, parents should take care to avoid crossing certain boundaries. They should also refrain from offering excessive information about the divorce and the circumstances that led to it. Another important way parents can protect their children after a divorce is to make sure the children are apprised of any critical changes in their schedules. Having a predictable schedule is an important factor in how well children can adjust.
Family law attorneys may advise parents about which options to pursue to resolve divorce legal issues regarding their children. If negotiations are fruitless, mediation might be advisable.